Calling Your Ex Girlfriend After The Break Up The Do’s And Don’ts

Calling your ex girlfriend after the break up isn’t supposed to be easy. You’re going to be a bundle of nerves, that’s a given. It really doesn’t matter what your motivation for the call is. Maybe you just want to ask her if she remembers where you left something you’ve misplaced. Or perhaps you’re feeling a need to wish her a happy birthday or see how her new job is going. Regardless of why you say you’re making the call, you and I both know that your true motivation is you miss hearing her voice. Fair enough.

The number one thing to remember when you’re calling your ex girlfriend is she’s going to be just as apprehensive as you are. She’s likely been thinking about you since the break up too. How could she not? You two were in love and together for awhile. Even if she was the one who dumped you, that doesn’t necessarily mean she was able to move on easily. My guess is she spends just as much time yearning for you as you are for her.

Call when you know she’ll be there. Too many men make the mistake of calling at the wrong time. Then they have to decide whether or not to leave a message. If you know her schedule, use that insight. Try and pick a time for the two of you to talk when she’s not going to be distracted by other people or her favorite show on television.


Don’t launch into a speech about how much you miss her at the first sound of her voice. You’ll overwhelm her immediately if you do that. You also really have to try your hardest not to get too emotional. Yes, it’s hard to talk to someone you love that much who you’re no longer with. That’s completely understandable. But if she’s put into a position where she feels responsible for your emotional well being, she’ll quickly end the call. After all this time, you just don’t want that to happen.

The first time you’re calling your ex girlfriend after the break up, keep things very light and neutral. Some quick ideas for you are to ask what’s going on in her life and seem genuinely interested. If she’s got some exciting news to share be happy for her and express that to her. Let her set the tone for the conversation.

We’ve all been part of a telephone conversation in which there were awkward silences. You don’t want that to happen. That’s why it’s advisable that when you’re calling your ex girlfriend, you end the call. Tell her why you called and then wish her well. Make it clear that you want to stay in touch and then say you have someplace to be and need to go.

If you handle this call the right way, it will definitely open up the lines of communication between the two of you again. Stay focused and strong during the call and you’ll feel all that more comfortable when you do it again next week.

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Saying or doing the wrong thing can impact your future with the woman you love. If you still need and want her don’t leave your future with her to chance, there are ways to win her back.Author: Gillian Reynolds

Calling Your Ex Girlfriend After The Break Up The Do’s And Don’ts